Honesty is the foundation of character development. Without it we will fail to become a person of character. I can assure you this. When you meet a person for the first time, we all are thinking to ourselves, “Can I trust this person?” or “Is this person honest”? You may not be thinking this consciously but subconsciously we all are performing an assessment of trust. The reason we think this right off the bat is because it is our human nature to make sure that the other person is not going to do anything to hurt us or devalue us. If we sense that a person at the slightest bit has other intentions rather than to add value to us or make our life experience better then we will become disengaged in furthering the relationship. As long as the other person displays to us a sense of acceptance or the ability to add value to us them we will move further in the relationship. Usually this is detected within the first 5 minutes of meeting each other, but it also does not stop there. It continues throughout the relationship. So with this in mind, if we want to be a friend to others and lead others then we have to get this one down or our influence is down the drain.
The interesting part I have found about meeting a person for the first time is, words do not even have to be said to pick up on a dishonest demeanor, an inappropriate glance or a bad look, could lose trust with others immediately. Human beings have the ability to sense someone that is not trustworthy or dependable by observation. So this is not something that you can fake. You cannot fake sincerity. You either are an honest person or you are not. No one is being fooled but the person that is not honest.
To be honest with others we first have to be honest with ourselves. Who are we? What do we stand for? What is our intentions or motives? Do we trust ourselves? If you cannot answer these things about yourselves then how can we expect others to feel that we are an honest person? How can we expect others to follow our lead? Trust begins with choosing to do the right thing all of the time, not just some of the time. When we choose to do the right thing we trust ourselves, therefore others will also feel that they can trust us as well.
Let’s ask a question. Would you want a friend or a person in charge of you that you do not trust? Of course you don’t. Others do not want that either.
Luke 6:31- “Do unto others as you would have them to do unto you.”
I challenge you to make a commitment to being a trustworthy and honest person today.You will be on your way to becoming a person of character.